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HATE - Battering Ram
Topic: HATE - Battering Ram
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Nov 10, 2010
11/10
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Sam Vaknin
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According to the Washington State Domestic Violence Fatality Review Project, and Neil Websdale, Understanding Domestic Homicide, Northeastern University Press, 1999 â women in the process of separation or divorce were the targets of half of all intimate partner violent crimes. In Florida the figure is even higher (60%). Hospital staff are ill-equipped and ill-trained to deal with this pandemic. Only 4% of hospital emergency room admissions of women in the United States were put down to...
Topics: abuse, domestic violence, battering, family, divorce, custody, offender, male, female, women, men,...
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xv, 259 pages ; 24 cm
Topics: Familie, Misshandlung, Lesbian battering, Gay battering, Dating violence, Family violence, Older...
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Amazing Stories v15n02 1941 02 (Ziff Davis)
Topics: allison, sasho, stories, loki, giants, amazing, ship, battering, earth, amazing stories, adam link,...
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10/18
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A public service announcement for the Center for Nonviolence.
Topics: Indiana, Fort Wayne, Access Fort Wayne, Public Access TV, Community Media, PEG, Youtube, Center for...
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Jul 14, 2011
07/11
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Sam Vaknin
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Is abuse anomalous â or an inevitable part of human nature? If the former â is it the outcome of flawed genetics, nurture (environment and upbringing) â or both? Can it be "cured" â or merely modified, regulated, and accommodated? There are three groups of theories â three schools â regarding abusers and their conduct. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with...
Topics: abuse, battering, stalking, bullying, mental health, genetics, nature, nurture, culture, society,...
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Jul 14, 2011
07/11
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Sam Vaknin
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Abusers appear to be suffering from dissociation (multiple personality). At home, they are intimidating and suffocating monsters â outdoors, they are wonderful, caring, giving, and much-admired pillars of the community. Why this duplicity? It is only partly premeditated and intended to disguise the abuser's acts. More importantly, it reflects his inner world, where the victims are nothing but two-dimensional representations, objects, devoid of emotions and needs, or mere extensions of his...
Topics: abuse, abuser, abusive, relationships, silent treatment, harassment, stalking, bullying,...
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Sep 27, 2011
09/11
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Sam Vaknin
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The problem starts when the true victims - often the abuser's "nearest and dearest" - adopt his/her point of view and begin to feel guilty and responsible for his/her reprehensible behaviors. This folie a deux (literally, in French, "madness in twosome") or shared psychosis is very common: victims and abusers form symbiotic dyads, abrogate reality, and share the same delusions. They allocate roles: the victim triggers the abuse and deserves it, the abuser is merely a hapless...
Topics: abuse, battering, stalking, stalker, abuser, intimate partner, relationship, guilt, blame, victim,...
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Aug 4, 2011
08/11
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Sam Vaknin
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To preserve one's mental health â one must abandon the narcissist. One must move on. Moving on is a process, not a decision or an event. First, one has to acknowledge and accept painful reality. Such acceptance is a volcanic, shattering, agonising series of nibbling thoughts and strong resistances. Once the battle is won, and harsh and agonizing realities are assimilated, one can move on to the learning phase. Learning We label. We educate ourselves. We compare experiences. We digest. We have...
Topics: narcissist, psychopath, abuse, victim, survivor, firgiving, forgetting, moving on, recovery,...
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In this auspicious hour of neo creation on seeing the reactions of these hardships at least once we gasp in despair saying that there should have been solutions for all the strife faced. Almighty God should have showered on us all joyous comforts and along with blessings should have augmented sense pleasures. Yet what actually takes place is bang opposite to this. How can this be labeled Era Creation wherein hardships rule the roost? In order to clarify this doubt one shall have to imbibe the...
Topics: gross superficial brain, tasks of destruction and battering are being executed, ultimate well being...
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Mar 22, 2011
03/11
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Sam Vaknin
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Many abusers believe that their abusive conduct fosters, enhances, and cements their intimate relationships. To them, pathological jealousy is proof of love, possessiveness replaces mature bonding, and battering is a form of paying attention to the partner and communicating with her. Such habitual offenders do not know any better. They were often raised in families, societies, and cultures where abuse is condoned outright â or, at least, not frowned upon. Maltreatment of one's significant...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Mar 14, 2012
03/12
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Sometimes we need to confront our self-defeating inner voices - and defeat them!
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 16, 2010
10/10
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Sam Vaknin
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For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling pleasantries. More often, the abused are left to wallow in a poisonous stew of misery, self-pity, and self-recrimination. Depending on the severity, duration, and nature of the abuse, there are three forms of...
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Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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May 19, 2011
05/11
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Sam Vaknin
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Abusers often use other people to do their dirty work for them. If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers â in short, third parties â to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target. He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey. He employs...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 21, 2010
10/10
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Sam Vaknin
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Narcissists cheat on their spouses, commit adultery and have extramarital affairs and liaisons for a variety of reasons which reflect disparate psychodynamic processes. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 21, 2010
10/10
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Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or extreme stressors (stressful events). Yet, some victims whose life or body have been directly and unequivocally threatened by an abuser react by developing these syndromes. PTSD is, therefore, typically associated with the aftermath of physical and sexual abuse in both children and...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Jan 18, 2011
01/11
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Sam Vaknin
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You cannot change people, not in the real, profound, deep sense. You can only adapt to them and adapt them to you. If you do find your narcissist rewarding at times â you should consider doing these: Determine your limits and boundaries. How much and in which ways can you adapt to him (i.e., accept him AS HE IS) and to which extent and in which ways would you like him to adapt to you (i.e., accept you as you are). Act accordingly. Accept what you have decided to accept and reject the rest....
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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May 25, 2011
05/11
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Sam Vaknin
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Mental Health Pros are amenable to the considerable charm, persuasiveness, and manipulativeness of the abuser and to his impressive thespian skills. The abuser offers a plausible rendition of the events and interprets them to his favor. The therapist rarely has a chance to witness an abusive exchange first hand and at close quarters. In contrast, the abused are often on the verge of a nervous breakdown: harassed, unkempt, irritable, impatient, abrasive, and hysterical. Confronted with this...
Topics: narcissist, system, courts, guardians, ad-litem, evaluators, counselors, police, therapists,...
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If you insist on staying with him -- you must also be prepared to serve as a Source of Narcissistic Supply, an alternative to the supply provided by his former lover. You must brace yourself: serving as a Narcissistic Supply Source is an onerous task, a full time job and a very ungrateful one at that. The narcissist's thirst for adulation, admiration, worship, approval, and attention can never by quenched. It is a Sisyphean, mind-numbing effort, which heralds only additional demands and...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Your first "fallback" option is your family. They are, in many cases (though by no means always) your natural allies. They can provide you with shelter, money, emotional support, and advice. Don't hesitate to call on them in times of need. Your friends and, to a lesser extent, your colleagues and neighbours will usually lend you a sympathetic ear and will provide you with useful tips. Merely talking to them can not only ease the burden â but protect you from future abuse. Stalkers...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Jan 4, 2011
01/11
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Sam Vaknin
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"If only he tried hard enough", "If he only really wanted to heal", "If only we found the right therapy", "If only his defences were down", "There MUST be something good and worthy under the hideous facade", "NO ONE can be that evil and destructive", "He must have meant it differently" "God, or a higher being, or the spirit, or the soul is the solution and the answer to our prayers". The narcissist holds such...
Topics: narcissist, abuse, stalking, stalker, battering, malignant optimism, pollyanna, victims, survivors,...
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Oct 19, 2010
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Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centred, devoid of empathy, abusive, and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - people whose existence and very identity rests solely and entirely on their victimhood - is well researched in victimology. It doesn't make for a nice reading. These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 21, 2010
10/10
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Sam Vaknin
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Many abusers have a specific body language. It comprises an unequivocal series of subtle -- but discernible -- warning signs. Pay attention to the way your date comports himself -- and save yourself a lot of trouble! (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 21, 2010
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he erotomaniac stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The erotomaniac feels free to make for you legal, financial, and emotional decisions and to commit you without your express consent or even knowledge. (From the book "Malignant Self-love:...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Nov 19, 2010
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Sam Vaknin
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Dump him and go about reconstructing your own life. Very few people deserve the kind of investment that is an absolute prerequisite to life with a narcissist. To cope with a narcissist is a full time, energy and emotion-draining job, which reduces people around him to insecure nervous wrecks. Who deserves such a sacrifice? No one, to my mind, not even the most brilliant, charming, breathtaking, suave narcissist. The glamour and trickery wear thin and underneath them a monster lurks which...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Amazing Stories v17n06 (1943 06.Ziff Davis)(cape1736)
Topics: kirk, vorosh, allison, brent, martin, stories, amazing, vanja, earth, amazing stories, tanya...
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Aug 5, 2008
08/08
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Book digitized by Google from the library of Oxford University and uploaded to the Internet Archive by user tpb.
Topics: signor, cried, bianca, villa, french, scylla, soldiers, dianora, santugo, public domain, third...
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Jan 8, 2018
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Act as “background noise”: ask no questions, never criticize or disagree, when addressed confine your response to the issues broached and do not introduce new topics into the conversation. In short: never initiate or be proactive – always react meekly, compliantly, and subserviently. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by...
Topics: no contact, background noise, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv,...
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Dec 11, 2010
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First and foremost, the narcissist's partner must have a deficient or a distorted grasp of her self and of reality. Otherwise, she (or he) is bound to abandon the narcissist's ship early on. The cognitive distortion is likely to consist of belittling and demeaning herself -- while aggrandising and adoring the narcissist. The partner is, thus, placing herself in the position of the eternal victim: undeserving, punishable, a scapegoat. Sometimes, it is very important to the partner to appear...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Nov 4, 2010
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In most countries, the police must respond to your complaint. They cannot just file it away or suppress it. They must talk to you and to your partner separately and obtain written and signed statements from both parties. The police officer on the scene must inform you of your legal options. The officer in charge must also furnish you with a list of domestic violence shelters and other forms of help available in your community. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Apr 1, 2012
04/12
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Abusive conduct is not a uniform, homogeneous phenomenon. It stems and emanates from multiple sources and manifests in myriad ways. Following are a few useful distinctions which pertain to abuse and could serve as organizing, taxonomical principles (dimensional typologies) in a kind of matrix of pain. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Jan 18, 2011
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Forgiving is an important capability. It does more for the forgiver than for the forgiven. But it should not be a universal, indiscriminate behaviour. It is legitimate not to forgive sometimes. It depends, of course, on the severity or duration of what was done to you. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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May 25, 2014
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Sam Vaknin
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Abuse survivor, poet, and spoken word artist, Audrey Michelle, talks to Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited": How Does the Abuser See the Victims of Abuse? Audrey Michelle: https://www.facebook.com/audreymichellepoet Sam Vaknin: https://www.facebook.com/samvaknin http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com Part of the Insight Enabled series.
Topics: Survivor, victim, audrey michelle, sam vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic...
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Nov 2, 2010
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Sam Vaknin
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Do not leave unprepared. Study and execute every detail of your getaway. This is especially important if your partner is violent. Be sure to make a Safety Plan â how to get out of the house unnoticed and the indispensable minimum items that you should carry with you, even on a short notice. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
The Statewide Study: 178 case records of child abuse and neglect reports were received and analyzed for: • evidence of drug and alcohol usage by family members; • characteristics of the abuse or neglect; • medical status of the reported child(ren); • family composition and demographics; • case status (open or previously closed) when the report was received; and • evidence of battering of the mother by her husband or other adult male member of the household.
Topics: substance abuse, alcoholism, family, violence, alcohol, alcoholism, drinking, family violence,...
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May 19, 2011
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Contrary to myths perpetuated by the mass media, studies show that most stalkers are men, have high IQ's, advanced degrees, and are middle aged (Meloy and Gothard, 1995; and Morrison, 2001). Rejected stalkers are intrusive and inordinately persistent. They recognize no boundaries â personal or legal. They honor to "contracts" and they pursue their target for years. They interpret rejection as a sign of the victim's continued interest and obsession with them. They are, therefore,...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 16, 2010
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Assuming that you want to stay with your abuser and to maintain the "relationship", maltreatment can, to some extent, be ameliorated or even avoided. Here's How. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 31, 2010
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Audrey Michelle Talks to Sam Vaknin about Narcissism, Narcissists, and Abuse in Intimate Relationships
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 20, 2010
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Repeated abuse has long lasting pernicious and traumatic effects such as panic attacks, hypervigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, and psychosomatic symptoms. The victims experience shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, abandonment, and an enhanced sense of vulnerability. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase:...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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The effects on victims and survivors of traumatic experiences, long-term and repeated abuse, and torture. Includes in-depth profile of the Narcissistic Abuser and hundreds of links to literature and resources.
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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The codependent molds himself/herself and bends over backward to cater to the needs of his nearest and dearest and satisfy their every whim, wish, expectation, and demand. Nothing is too unpleasant or unacceptable if it serves to secure the uninterrupted presence of the codependent's family and friends and the emotional sustenance s/he can extract (or extort) from them. The codependent does not feel fully alive when alone. S/he feels helpless, threatened, ill-at-ease, and child-like. This acute...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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The Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths: the point of view and lessons of the victims.
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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So, you go back to your "relationship" and hope for a better ending. You walk on eggshells. You become the epitome of submissiveness, a perfect Source of Narcissistic Supply, the ideal mate or spouse or partner or colleague. You keep your fingers crossed. But how does the narcissist react to the resurrection of the bond? (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Dec 15, 2011
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1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me. 2. I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds. 3. I will not tolerate abuse and aggression in any form or guise. I will seek to terminate such misconduct instantly and unequivocally. 4. I will be assertive and unambiguous about my needs, wishes, and expectations from others. I will not be arrogant -...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Psychopathic bullies and abusers regard themselves as artists: their bullying is a form of perfected art and their abuse â the epitome of craftsmanship. They are proud of their âachievementsâ and happily recount instances of pain and hurt inflicted on their victims. There is a glint in the psychopathic narcissistâs eye when he describes the helplessness of...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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When you move into a shelter, you must know in advance what your final destination is. Imagine and plan your life after the shelter. Do you intend to relocate? If so, would you need financial assistance? What about the children's education and friends? Can you find a job? Have everything sorted out. Only then, pack your things and leave your abuser. So, before you opt for moving with your children into a sheltered home or apartment, go through this check list.(From the book "Malignant...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Why do good people - church-goers, pillars of the community, the salt of the earth - ignore abuse and neglect, even when it is on their doorstep and in their proverbial backyard (for instance, in families, hospitals, orphanages, shelters, prisons, and the like)? (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Oct 21, 2010
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Ambient abuse is the stealth, subtle, underground currents of maltreatment that sometimes go unnoticed even by the victims themselves, until it is too late. Ambient abuse penetrates and permeates everything -- but is difficult to pinpoint and identify. It is ambiguous, atmospheric, diffuse. Hence its insidious and pernicious effects. It is by far the most dangerous kind of abuse there is. It is the outcome of fear -- fear of violence, fear of the unknown, fear of the unpredictable, the...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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May 19, 2011
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Sam Vaknin
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Your abusive ex-partner will try to dazzle you with attention. Return all gifts he sends you â unopened and unacknowledged. Keep your communications with him to the bare, cold, minimum. Do not be impolite or abusive â it is precisely how he wants you to behave. It may be used against you in a court of law. Keep your cool but be firm. Do not let him re-enter your life surreptitiously. Stealth and ambient abuse are powerful tools. Refuse him entry to your premises. Do not even respond to the...
Topics: abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism,...
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Two narcissists of the same type (somatic, cerebral, classic, compensatory, inverted, etc.) cannot maintain a stable, long-term full-fledged, and functional relationship. But if the narcissists involved are of different types, if one of them is cerebral and the other one somatic, a long-term partnership based on the mutual provision of Narcissistic Supply can definitely survive. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase:...
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